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Should I move cities?
Half the pull is the city. The other half is proving you're the kind of person who goes. This page reads the moment and gives a direction: go, wait one careful season, or change something smaller where you already are. You still get to decide.
What this question usually is
- People rarely move for the city. They move to be someone they can't be where they're known.
- The draft version of the move is almost always too tidy. The real one has a bad month in it.
- 'Should I move' is often 'should I change something' — and that change doesn't always need a flight.
What actually helps
- 1Write your first boring Sunday in the new city — groceries, laundry, no plans. Does the person in that day look well?
- 2Write what you'd be leaving. Be honest about whether it's the place or the people or the version of you it keeps alive.
- 3Give it one season of asking before you book. It moves fast, but rarely as fast as the feeling says.
You're not deciding between two cities. You're deciding which ordinary Sunday is the one you want to do again and again.
One question, one direction — not a promise about the new place.
Questions people actually ask
What if I move and hate it?
Then you move again, and you'll know more than you do now. The direction is about the next honest step, not a guarantee the city fits.
Should I move for a person?
Ask it as its own question and let the direction include them as a fact, not as the whole reason. Move for the Sunday you want, people included.
Other people bring this one too
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A reflection, not therapy and not medical advice. Not financial, legal or relationship advice either — we don’t decide for you, and we don’t predict.