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Should I marry him?
Everyone around you has an opinion, and none of them has to live it. This page is not going to decide for you either. It's here to help you hear your own answer, the one you keep apologising for.
Updated 2026-11-04
What this question usually is
- This question is rarely about him. It is usually about the word 'forever'.
- The doubt you keep apologising for is information, not betrayal.
- People ask 'should I' when they mean 'am I allowed to feel what I feel'.
What actually helps
- 1Write the answer you would give if nobody would ever find out.
- 2Ask what you would tell your best friend in exactly this situation — then notice if you're being kinder to them than to yourself.
- 3Wait until tomorrow. If the answer is still the same in the morning, that's the honest version.
You don't have to know forever. You only have to know today — and then wait for tomorrow.
One question, one answer. A reflection, not a verdict on your future.
Questions people actually ask
Should I marry him?
This question is usually about the word forever, and not about him. Write the answer you would give if nobody would ever find out, then wait for tomorrow and see whether it is still there.
What if my family disagrees?
They get to have opinions, not your Tuesdays. Notice which of their reasons you would have to live inside, and which ones dissolve by morning.
Is doubt a bad sign?
Doubt is information, not betrayal. The useful version of it names the thing you are afraid of. The useless version just repeats what if.
How do I know if I should marry someone?
Not by the size of the feeling today — by the ordinary Tuesdays. Write the ordinary week you would actually live with them: who does what, who you are in that house. If you would still choose that week on a boring, tired day, that is a better answer than certainty ever gives you.
Other people bring this one too
If any part of this question is about feeling safe — not about whether to stay — that is bigger than a page like this.
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An ancient Chinese divination. Not financial, legal or relationship advice either — we don’t decide for you, and we don’t predict.