离否
Should I get a divorce?
You came looking for a checklist because a checklist feels safer than a feeling. But no list ends a marriage — one honest read does. This won't decide for you, and nothing here has to be acted on tonight.
Updated 2026-10-12
What this question usually is
- You already know what you'd choose. You're looking for a reason that isn't just 'I'm tired'.
- The question isn't whether you love them. It's whether you can keep being this version of yourself there.
- Most people ask a hundred times before they act, and sometimes the asking is the answer.
What actually helps
- 1Write what you'd want a friend in this exact spot to hear, word for word. Then read it as if she wrote it.
- 2Write the one thing that, if it changed, would change your answer. If nothing would, that's its own clear signal.
- 3Get one direction — not a verdict — then sleep on it. Talk to someone for real, not just to a screen.
You don't need a checklist to be allowed to be done. You need one honest read, and the courage to hear it.
One question, one direction — not a verdict on your future.
Questions people actually ask
Should I get a divorce?
No list decides this for you. Write what you'd tell a friend in your place, and the one change that would flip your answer, then get one direction and sleep on it before acting.
How do I know if it's fixable?
If there's one thing that, changed, would change your answer, that's where to aim. If nothing would, that's your answer — and a direction can help you hear it.
Is it wrong to want out?
Wanting out is information, not a verdict. A direction helps you choose the timing, not shame you for the feeling.
Other people bring this one too
- 回头Should I go back to my ex who cheated?
- 厌职Should I quit my job if I hate it?
- 裸辞Should I quit without another job lined up?
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An ancient Chinese divination. Not financial, legal or relationship advice either — we don’t decide for you, and we don’t predict.